Fear of Man – Tannika Nikeya

Welcome to my series where I will be free writing and writing flash fiction to have fun, to regain my discipline as a frequent writer, and to stretch and strengthen my writing skills.

Can you find yourself in all of what you want them to see?
Will you still feel good about yourself,
When social media doesnt appease?
When the lights turn out and the applause stops,
Will you still be the one who rocks?

When social media exposes you for who you really are,
And you dont look up to par,
Will you realize you are beautiful and raise the bar?

Are you limiting your greatness by living up to others’ standards?
Are you still successful, even when it looks different from theirs? Will you still commit to fulfilling the task, even if no one cares?

Are you goals when your goals are not always coming to pass?
Can you still value your relationship, if your relationship is not within the Relationship Goals Class?

Will you use your platforms also for right and to uplift others?
Will you measure yourself by the standard of His Word and not another?

Will you care more about the likes or care to like yourself?
Will you find your purpose or imitate someone else?

Will social media and fear of man rule your life?
Will you spend time building your brand,
But never the heart of your family and friends?

Can you strive for greatness but be brave enough to show your imperfections, hardships, and flaws?
Will you stand out in a world of counterfeits, lookalikes, and conditional love and conditional applause?

If you liked this poem, please check out my poetry books!

Wearing Someone Else’s Shoes Ain’t Never Been Me

Setting The Captive Free

If you can identify with this poem and really need to get back to or start learning to embrace your imperfections, love yourself, overcome your fear of man, see yourself the way God does and grow from there, please share this poem but also begin the mission of doing these things that I just mentioned.

There are all types of fear: fear of death, fear of snakes, fear of heights, fear of clowns, fear of drowning/water, and the list goes on and on. One of my own particular fears is heights, but if it wasn’t for God, my fun experiences and favorite parts of flying—taking off from the runway and landing—I wouldn’t fly at all. After all, flying is associated with heights and a plane can ascend/climb as high as 40,000 feet. Moreover, one fear I have not even begun to half-way embrace is deep water. You won’t catch me venturing in deep water, not just because I can’t swim, but because of my fear of stepping foot in water that is taller than me and seems to have no bottom floor in reach of my feet.

However, the same God who delivered me from depression and some of my previous fears can deliver me from my current ones. One current fear I did not realize was so prevalent, yet incognito, in my life is the Fear of Man. We often don’t hear about this fear unless we are sitting in bible study or reading His Word about all the times God talks about this debilitating, ensnaring fear.

Fear of Man says I care more about what man think than what God thinks. Fear of Man says I am afraid of rejection, hurt, heartbreak, shame, disappointment, and being opposed and disapproved. Fear of Man says my reputation matters more than God’s glory and His Word. Fear of Man can cost you your destiny, can hinder your ability to make sound decisions, or even cause you to be untruthful to yourself, God and others. Fear of Man can destroy your self-esteem and your confidence. It will also weaken your impact with others.

So with that said, do you too have the Fear of Man?

Are you a people-pleaser?
Do you straddle the fence? Are you afraid to take sides even though you know one is the truth? Do you rather tell people what they want to hear rather than the truth because you are afraid to anger them?
Are you stunting your spiritual growth because you are holding on to the world or afraid of what people might say? You are afraid you will be an outcast in your family or your friends if you continue to grow in your faith?
Your answer is always yes and it’s hard to say no even when you should.
Do you desire constant praise and approval from others?
Do you second guess yourself?
Are you timid?
Do you have low self-esteem?

Now if you answered yes to all or mostly all of them, or even one of these, you too have the Fear of Man. Actually, most people have dealt with this at one point in their lives or are dealing with this type of fear now.

Now let’s look at the detrimental consequences of letting Fear of Man dominate us. The first king of Israel was a man named Saul who became king at age 30. He reigned over Israel for forty two years. Let’s take a look at how this man lost his kingship and ultimately his life and destiny.

Samuel said to Saul, “I am the one the Lord sent to anoint you king over his people Israel; so listen now to the message from the Lord. This is what the Lord Almighty says: ‘I will punish the Amalekites for what they did to Israel when they waylaid them as they came up from Egypt. Now go, attack the Amalekites and totally destroy[a] all that belongs to them. Do not spare them; put to death men and women, children and infants, cattle and sheep, camels and donkeys.’” So Saul summoned the men and mustered them at Telaim—two hundred thousand foot soldiers and ten thousand from Judah. Saul went to the city of Amalek and set an ambush in the ravine. Then he said to the Kenites, “Go away, leave the Amalekites so that I do not destroy you along with them; for you showed kindness to all the Israelites when they came up out of Egypt.” So the Kenites moved away from the Amalekites. Then Saul attacked the Amalekites all the way from Havilah to Shur, near the eastern border of Egypt. He took Agag king of the Amalekites alive, and all his people he totally destroyed with the sword. But Saul and the army spared Agag and the best of the sheep and cattle, the fat calves[b] and lambs—everything that was good. These they were unwilling to destroy completely, but everything that was despised and weak they totally destroyed.

Then the word of the Lord came to Samuel: “I regret that I have made Saul king, because he has turned away from me and has not carried out my instructions.” Samuel was angry, and he cried out to the Lord all that night. Early in the morning Samuel got up and went to meet Saul, but he was told, “Saul has gone to Carmel. There he has set up a monument in his own honor and has turned and gone on down to Gilgal.” When Samuel reached him, Saul said, “The Lord bless you! I have carried out the Lord’s instructions.” But Samuel said, “What then is this bleating of sheep in my ears? What is this lowing of cattle that I hear?” Saul answered, “The soldiers brought them from the Amalekites; they spared the best of the sheep and cattle to sacrifice to the Lord your God, but we totally destroyed the rest.” “Enough!” Samuel said to Saul. “Let me tell you what the Lord said to me last night.” “Tell me,” Saul replied. Samuel said, “Although you were once small in your own eyes, did you not become the head of the tribes of Israel? The Lord anointed you king over Israel. And he sent you on a mission, saying, ‘Go and completely destroy those wicked people, the Amalekites; wage war against them until you have wiped them out.’ Why did you not obey the Lord? Why did you pounce on the plunder and do evil in the eyes of the Lord?”

“But I did obey the Lord,” Saul said. “I went on the mission the Lord assigned me. I completely destroyed the Amalekites and brought back Agag their king. The soldiers took sheep and cattle from the plunder, the best of what was devoted to God, in order to sacrifice them to the Lord your God at Gilgal.” But Samuel replied: “Does the Lord delight in burnt offerings and sacrifices as much as in obeying the Lord? To obey is better than sacrifice, and to heed is better than the fat of rams. For rebellion is like the sin of divination, and arrogance like the evil of idolatry. Because you have rejected the word of the Lord, he has rejected you as king.” Then Saul said to Samuel, “I have sinned. I violated the Lord’s command and your instructions. I was afraid of the men and so I gave in to them. Now I beg you, forgive my sin and come back with me, so that I may worship the Lord.” But Samuel said to him, “I will not go back with you. You have rejected the word of the Lord, and the Lord has rejected you as king over Israel!” As Samuel turned to leave, Saul caught hold of the hem of his robe, and it tore. Samuel said to him, “The Lord has torn the kingdom of Israel from you today and has given it to one of your neighbors—to one better than you. He who is the Glory of Israel does not lie or change his mind; for he is not a human being, that he should change his mind.”

Saul replied, “I have sinned. But please honor me before the elders of my people and before Israel; come back with me, so that I may worship the Lord your God.” So Samuel went back with Saul, and Saul worshiped the Lord. Then Samuel said, “Bring me Agag king of the Amalekites.” Agag came to him in chains. [c] And he thought, “Surely the bitterness of death is past.” But Samuel said, “As your sword has made women childless, so will your mother be childless among women.” And Samuel put Agag to death before the Lord at Gilgal. Then Samuel left for Ramah, but Saul went up to his home in Gibeah of Saul. Until the day Samuel died, he did not go to see Saul again, though Samuel mourned for him. And the Lord regretted that he had made Saul king over Israel. (1Samuel 15)

I suggest you read the entire book of 1 Samuel to get a sense of the whole story about King Saul and King David. Nonetheless, King Saul let the Fear of Man lead him to choose to gratify his own desires, disobey God, and submit to his fears of rejection and opposition from the people. How disheartening to be removed from your job, to have your position given to someone else, and to face disapproval from God?

I am so glad that God has alerted me to this sin that was taking control over me and although I have more surrendering to Him to do and He is leading me to understand the root of the Fear of Man in my life, I am a work in progress and I am learning to fear God. I am learning to please Him more and I am learning to love others as I love myself also because when Fear of Man is more prevalent in my life, the love of God is not.

To come from under the entangling, consuming Fear of Man:

Pray and ask God the root cause of it in your life.
Repent and ask God to purify your heart and renew your mind.
Saturate in the Word of God daily.
Increase in the Fear of the Lord by reading His Word, spending quiet time with the Lord and praising God Almighty, Sovereign Lord.
Learn when to say no at the direction of the Holy Spirit.
Understand that you will never please everyone but one you can please is God as He shows you how.
Trust God’s Word and obey it.
Examine your motives behind the things you do.
Know that you don’t have to be perfect, but have an undivided heart towards God.
It is liberating when you are living for Him and your eyes are fixed on the author and perfecter of our faith!

Till Next Time,

Tannika

TRUST GOD AND SET THE CAPTIVE FREE