Repost- Money $eries Week: Relationship

Relationships are essential to our lives. They are crucial to our development, growth, and existence. They are so crucial that the Ten Commandments show us how we are to protect our relationship with God and our relationships with others. Jesus takes it a step further by instructing us “to Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.’[a] 31 The second is this: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’[b] There is no commandment greater than these.” (Mark 12:30-31)

Today, however, we will talk about OUR RELATIONSHIP WITH MONEY.

There are some of us who have healthy relationships with money and some of us who do not. Let us talk about the unhealthy relationships with money some of us have. Money controls some of us. Money leads us toward making poor decisions. Money runs away from us and it spends all of its time with our bills and/or bad habits. Money makes us feel good–until it goes away.

Okay, let’s not put all the blame on money and make this one-sided. We are at fault for having money control the relationship. Moreover, we don’t see its worth. We don’t value it. We don’t get to know it. We either have unrealistic expectations, too little expectations, or too high expectations of our money. And we don’t tell our money what we expect it to accomplish. We don’t see our money’s potential. We don’t invest in it. We don’t let it rest. We don’t even let it just sit and catch its breath sometimes. We don’t use wisdom and care when handling it. Then we expect it to do what we need it to do and be what we need it to be.

What about our management of someone else’s money (credit cards). We pretend its fully ours until its time to pay it back. Then we get stressed and our finances look even more a mess.

Stats: Pew Charitable Trusts reports that 80% of Americans are with debt. (www.pewtrusts.org)

But God desires for our relationship with money to not be a stressful, debilitating one, but a healthy one. He desires that money not master us and that we trust in Him, the One who supplies all of our needs according to His riches in glory by Christ Jesus (Philippians 4:19).

Today’s Scriptures:

Mark 12:30-31 And thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind, and with all thy strength: this is the first commandment. And the second is like, namely this, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself. There is none other commandment greater than these.

Philippians 4:19 But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus.

Prayer:

Lord, please help us to have a healthy relationship with money. We desire to serve You and not money. Break the yokes of poor stewardship and debt in our lives. Forgive us for building such a dependence on earthly things and for our love of money. Help us to trust and depend on You and to love You with all of our hearts. In Jesus’ name, amen.

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Repost: Money $eries Week- Q&A With The Professional

Originally Posted on June 15, 2017

Hey loves,

We sincerely hope you have been enjoying this week’s Money $eries and they have made an impact on you. We have been blessed to share tips, facts, prayers, and the Word of God on such a crucial, favorite topic in this world–money. This evening we are presenting a special Q (Tannika) & A (Shalamaar). Shalamaar Muhammad is a Commercial Banking Professional with JP Morgan and fellow Christian who loves to share financial wisdom with others. Enjoy our Q & A as well as take notes.

Tannika: What is the one mistake people tend to make the most with their finances?

Shalamaar: Live outside their means. People tend to buy things that they don’t need to impress people they don’t like.

Tannika: As a fellow believer, what are some things you want Christians to understand about money.

Shalamaar: As a fellow believer, I would say remember that the love of money is the root of all evil. Money should be looked at and used as a tool to meet your needs and the needs of others. Also give to purpose and not just need all the time. People who repeat the same cycles of bad money management usually have an underlying issue that needs to be addressed and resolved, and if it isn’t, the need will always continue.

Tannika: What are the major areas of finance people should also be concerned with than just paying bills?

Shalamaar: Other than paying bills, use your finances to save (emergency fund, nest egg).

Invest- Earn a return on your money.

Give- Help meet others’ needs as God meets yours.

Tannika: Dave Ramsey, financial guru and Christian, encourages every one to have an emergency fund. Why do we fail at building an emergency fund?

Shalamaar: We fail at building an emergency fund because we don’t want to make the necessary sacrifices to do so. Think about how many restaurant meals, unnecessary shopping trips, vacations and other luxuries we could have given up over a year to build the fund. A year goes by so fast, so cutting back for a while is a minor sacrifice in the grand scheme of life. Letting go of instant gratification can help build up that fund and save you the headache of looking for additional funds at the time of emergency.

Tannika: Explain what it means to invest your money and the best way to do so?

Shalamaar: Investing your money can mean so many things. In the most simple terms, it means to earn a return on your money. It can be a conservative investment such as a simple interest savings or CD or complex such as investment in stocks and bonds. It’s best to speak with a professional such as a Financial Advisor to learn more about what investment best suits you.

Tannika: What is the best financial advice you received growing up?

Shalamaar: The best financial advice I received growing up was not to use credit as extra money. Credit can be helpful but there are also dangers if you are not responsbile, live beyond your means, or do not have self-control.

Dangers of Credit

Overdoing it; borrowing more than you can afford to repay.
If you don’t make your payments on time, you’ll damage your credit record.
Losing money on late fees.
Having to pay additional interest.
Difficulty getting loans or credit in the future.
Once your credit is damaged, it can take years and tons of extra money to restore it.

Wow, thanks to Shalamaar for blessing us with loads of knowledge about emergency funds, investing and debt as well as the dangers of credit!

What are you taking away from today’s post? How will you apply what Shalamaar has shared with us to your new financial journey?

Today’s Scripture:

Jeremiah 17:7‭-‬8 NIV “But blessed is the one who trusts in the Lord , whose confidence is in him. They will be like a tree planted by the water that sends out its roots by the stream. It does not fear when heat comes; its leaves are always green. It has no worries in a year of drought and never fails to bear fruit.”

Luke 16:10-12 “Whoever can be trusted with very little can also be trusted with much, and whoever is dishonest with very little will also be dishonest with much. So if you have not been trustworthy in handling worldly wealth, who will trust you with true riches? And if you have not been trustworthy with someone else’s property, who will give you property of your own?

Prayer:

Father, thank You for Your wisdom. Let me seek You and Your wisdom as well as Your Will to be done in my life. Help me to, for here on out, see money the way You do and to use it for Your glory and in Your wisdom. In Jesus’ name, amen.

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Shalamaar Muhammad is a woman of God whose joy can be seen and felt through her beautiful smile, her faith and involvement with her church, her spending time with her family and friends, and her volunteer work. Shalamaar is a Commercial Banking Professional with JP Morgan who also does business planning and personal finance. She has been a consistent volunteer with South Suburban PADS for more than seven years and looks forward to continuing helping others in need.

Picture: Shalamaar Muhammad, JP Morgan Commercial Banking Professional

Repost: Financial Reset

Originally Posted February 3, 2018 via fruitfulandfabulous.wordpress.com

Throw The Whole Mindset Away

“Out with the old, in with the new” is a popular saying. When a new year touches down, you want to leave behind in the past year everything old and weighty that caused you so much grief, frustation, and disappointment. So why can’t we leave behind old habits and mindsets that keep us weighed down and pennyless?

Tight

This January, if our financial part of our lives were rooms, they would be an empty room of compact four walls closing in on us, or is that just mine. After Christmas and an unexpected bill, I knew it would be tight and I expected to make it through with some sweat. However, with getting back into debt and having credit card balances again, I have been sweating a lot. Nonetheless, I am expecting to recover or at least stop the walls from closing in on me with prayer and planning.

But what about families or individuals who have to bury loved ones. It is much difficult for them to recover. One of my former students was faced with burying her beloved mom with no monies available for a funeral and burial. How disheartening it is to not only be grieving the loss of a loved one, but also stress over coming up with the money to take care of their beloved’s burial.

Don’t Just Talk The Talk

January was a tough month, and not just financially, but it has also left me to realize I carried into 2018 some old habits and ideologies that I did not fully nip in the bud, which have hindered me from truly rectifying my financial situations. I merely did on the surface work.

And for one, I can’t talk a good walk financially, get free from debt once minus student loans, clear up credit card debt twice, and save emergency fund technically twice only to keep the same habits and go down the same halls I know not to take. So, in actuality I am going around in circles. Now, I must say this. We are not perfect and will make mistakes, but we must admit our habits and ways that are hindering us from making true progress. “I want to create wealth” I heard myself telling the bank rep and “be debt free” but I needed a temporary short loan. Ludicrous. A loan to pay a bill and if honest to spend to add to more debt. For my situation, it was a no-go. I got denied the loan but am thankful because I have to trust God and put away old habits and actually walk the walk of what it is I am learning and sharing with others.

Father God, create in us a clean heart and renew a right spirit within us. Let us see money the way You do and let us get our financial affairs in order. We don’t know what the future holds, and Lord, we want to trust You and depend on You. Help us to seek You for wisdom to be prepared as well as help us to become better and godly stewards over all You have blessed us with. Let us be blessed to be a blessing too knowing that You have entrusted us to gifts, talents, time, and financial resources not just for ourselves but for others and Your kingdom. Let us owe no man nothing except love. Let us also have a heart of gratitude and be content in any situation. In Jesus’ name, amen!

So what’s our top 10 financial things we need to work towards in 2018.

1. Pray and meditate on the Word of God and His principles on money, tithing, giving, etc.

2. Seek the Holy Spirit for wisdom and guidance on when and how to give to others, how to sow and reap, how to invest, how to be a blessing to others, and just how to steward over what God has given us.

3. Start Saving. I don’t care if it is a jar of change. Or just dollars. Start and stay consistent. Put money in a bank account rarely used and assign those savings with a purpose.

4. Start an emergency fund. Unexpectedly, the car breaks down, the furnace goes out, your property taxes go up, we need to travel or want to bless someone, boom. We have something to work with.

5. Budget and cut some stuff out or down. Do we need to eat at a restaurant every day, do we need that other channel subscription alongside of Netflix? Do we need a new pair of shoes or a new pair of jeans every month? Do we want to just have stuff or do we want memories and moments?

6. Declutter our house. Sell or give away that stuff to others in need. I am a firm believer, that in order to make room for the new, we have to make space for it. So if we do want a new dress, check the closet for dresses we may have not worn in awhile and either embrace them again, give them away, or sell them. Their are avenues like the thrift store and Ebay who will buy or take and allow us to sell these things.

7. Invest. Research investing, stocks, and talk to professionals on such. And then start somewhere. We can even invest in pennystocks. Robinhood is a great investment source especially for beginners and pennystocks.

8. Talk about finances with the family, expectations, teamwork, goals, and create a financial plan.

9. Get life insurance. Point blank and period.

10. Stay consistent. Keep pressing. Be patient. Don’t give up.

M.I.A

The M.I.A (Most Important Accessory) that a Christian should have in their possession is GODLY STEWARDSHIP. It is something we don’t hang up or sport from time to time, but something we must wear daily, second by second, minute by minute. Let no debt remain outstanding, except the continuing debt to love one another, for whoever loves others has fulfilled the law. The point is this: whoever sows sparingly will also reap sparingly, and whoever sows bountifully will also reap bountifully. Each one must give as he has decided in his heart, not reluctantly or under compulsion, for God loves a cheerful giver. And God is able to make all grace abound to you, so that having all sufficiency in all things at all times, you may abound in every good work. As it is written, “He has distributed freely, he has given to the poor; his righteousness endures forever.” He who supplies seed to the sower and bread for food will supply and multiply your seed for sowing and increase the harvest of your righteousness. Wealth gained hastily will dwindle, but whoever gathers little by little will increase it. Honor the Lord with your wealth and with the firstfruits of all your produce. And seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.

Contributing Writer: Tannika Moore

Shifting and Merging

With the new year, I want to continue encouraging others. I started a business venture in 2014: clothing and apparel brand. Although I haven’t spent time focusing on it these past few years as the lack of success and further direction deterred my motivation, I have been waiting and praying about what to do with it. In the meantime, I have come to a few possible choices and decisions. One of them is I will be sharing some of my posts from my Fruitful & Fabulous blog here on my Tannika Nikeya and writer’s brand site.

As always, be encouraged and take one day at at time!

Next Year, Lord

Next year, Lord
I feel led
To go quiet in the land,
While my footprints still show up in the sand,
Right behind Yours.
Next year, Lord
I pray I hold Your hand.
That is the only way I will be able to stand.
Cling to You all 365 days
Acknowledge You in all of my ways.

I cried so much this year.
Next year, let me remember You have collected every tear.
This year was so uncomfortable and I kept going back and forth about giving up.
Next year, I won’t throw in the towel,
Even when it is soaked and I have had enough.
This year, the healing journey continued and felt long.
Next year, I’ll still be healing but singing a new  song.
This year, I leaked emotionally and was scared as hell.
Next year, I will release maturely and the will of God over my life will prevail.
This year, I was stuck.
Next year, I will arise from the enemy’s prison and drink from the overflow of my God-given cup.

This year I felt alone and misunderstood.
Next year, I will live confidently and do all that God said I could.
This year I felt weak, overwhelmed and drained.
Next year, I may have moments I run low but I can do all things through Christ Jesus who strengthens me, and I will not strain.

This year, I struggled in every area of my life.
One attack after the other.
Strife after strife.
Next year I will consistently suit up in daily wardrobe of the armor of God and godly wisdom. And doing so will help me fight.
This year, I learned some things
And set some boundaries.
Next year, the fruit of such will sprout.
This year had seasons of emotional, financial and spiritual drought.
But Next year, I will stay in the presence of God,
Receive His love and answers to what I have been trying to figure out.

This year I began to learn to turn down the noise and God’s voice got clearer.
Next year, what will happen if I drew nearer
To the One Who first loved me,
Ancient of Days,
Who gave His only begotten Son
So that I may be set free?
This year I wanted to run away and abandon the mission.
Next year, because I developed His wisdom and His courage, I can remain in the kitchen.
In which God provides me with an apron and a pot.
But the kitchens in which He did not,
I’m up and I’m out.
Because next year I will be intentional with all that I am and about,
Intentional with my time, respectful to my purpose, allowing God to continue bringing things to the surface.
So, I can continue to heal.
I will be authentic and not just keep it real
I will allow myself to feel
And acknowledge my flaws.
Remembering that I need the Holy Spirit still.
Next year, I will laugh more
And not please people to death and work so hard to earn love.
I will believe that I am enough from the One Above.

Next year, I will love others as I love myself
And do what is best for me.
As long as God approves and it is clothed in integrity.
I have to live with my self 24-7.
And stand before the God of Earth and Heavens.
Next year,
I may be silent.
I may be still.
What I accepted this year, I may not accept next year.
I may change my mind,
But I will continue to heal.
I will not let the world define me
Or those who can only see me from their sight.
I will continue to allow the Word of God to renew my mind to transform my life.
I will March to the beat of my own drum, cymbals and harp.
Thank God for each new day
And try not to lose heart.
Next year, I will take one day at a time
And not rush through the process or journey.
Doing life without God and not step by step can give you whiplash and land your soul on a gurney.
Next year, I will Keep my eyes fixed on God
And get back on the bike of life.
Try and make decisions that are not just good, but right.

Next year I will remember that God got me
And I will focus more on being and not just doing.
Next Year, I will be full of courage and success that God and I will define.
Thank God for how far I have come, for everything there is a season,
And God is the author of my faith, my story and my time.


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2022 In Review

This year was rough. It was filled with a lot of tears, anxiety, stress and healing journey setbacks. I got hit by a car & my wallet stolen. I also discovered some things that broke my heart. And then I am raising also now a teen. Despite all, I had some fun in between, am still here & God is & has been faithful!

These are just some things that happened in 2022. We also lost one of our dear mothers of our church as well as my precious baby cousin this year. It has been a rollercoaster of a year; some ups and downs but thank God for the lessons and love we also received.

God bless you all and have a wonderful New Year Day!!! See you in the New Year.

Tannika Nikeya😘

Position

I was asking God what is next year’s theme for 2023 and “position” is what I heard. Maybe it was my own self giving this answer or maybe it was God. I’m not sure. But I will take this theme and mission. When looking up what position means this is what I found: What is the biblical meaning of position?
“Position” means abiding in Him and Christ’s words abiding in us (John 15:7). I also found as I googled– Topical Bible: Position
(n.) The state of being posited, or placed; the manner in which anything is placed; attitude; condition; as, a firm, an inclined, or an upright position. And the regular definitions/synonyms for position are posture, stance, attitude, place, etc.

This year we learned to take one day at a time and that healing is continual and a journey. And to seek God like never before. Next year, we get into position. We abide in God as He abides in us. We stay steadfast and believe Him no matter how much doubt tries to creep in or gain control. We allow God to renew our minds. We allow God to place us and strengthen us where He leads us. We learn to be still and know that He is God. We stand knowing that God is with us and will never leave us nor forsake us. We learn to surrender every area of our lives and get in position to know Him more, receive His love, His wisdom, His promises and His manifested peace.

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