Beneath the Soil: Lessons From My First Garden

Late last year, on the edge of fall, I started my gardening journey. I was a bit behind in getting started but was able to put together my first garden before winter hit. With much research, prayer, and a bit of Q&A with ChatGPT, I began my backyard agricultural journey. I started with crops that could endure the slightly warm and breezy fall temperatures, transition to cooler weather, and make it through the winter.

Before my adventure began, I started preparing not just through research and prayer, but by gradually purchasing the materials I would need. Potting mix, compost, a solar animal repellent device, seeds, and gardening tools were just some of the things I had to gather.

With the help of my teen, we assembled raised garden beds, added cardboard, sticks, soil, a little coffee grounds, and perlite to help maintain proper moisture within the beds.

I sowed seeds of spinach, lettuce, thyme, chives, and garlic in my bed I called Grace. They could thrive as companions. In my bed called Steward, I planted arugula, kale, mustard greens, cilantro, and carrots as companions.

Companion planting is the practice of planting various crops and herbs together that can grow near one another and benefit both each other and the garden bed in which they are planted.

I continued praying, researching, and questioning ChatGPT about how to maintain my new garden beds once they were ready and the seeds were sown. Eventually, I found a watering rhythm and learned a measure of patience. But more work is still needed in the patience department.

When the first sprouts of my vegetable and herb garden appeared, I was ecstatic. I do not have a green thumb, so seeing the fruits of my labor and the answers to my prayers brought me great joy. My spinach sprouted but looked like grass to me at first, lol. Later, it matured into what spinach is actually supposed to look like.

Now, as for my hiccups.

I noticed a slight tunnel in one of my garden beds—not a major one, but something had disturbed the soil. After inspecting it further and repositioning the dirt, I knew I needed additional protection for the beds and baby seedlings. I purchased garden nets as well as hoops for the nets to rest upon so they would not smash the produce.

When the cold of winter arrived, everything was still doing well. My baby seedlings could handle the cold for a while. But I live in Illinois, so when temperatures dropped below 35 degrees and then became even colder, they needed frost covers, straw, and sometimes additional coverings like old curtains we had saved.

Winter taught me patience in the unknown, as well as trusting God to steward what I could not while I waited. I worried at times. But some of the sprouts and seedlings were dormant, quiet as they too waited, just more patiently than I.

And although I protected them with frost nets and, when needed, additional coverings, not all of them escaped our bitter Illinois winter. Some of my seedlings got frostbitten, mainly my arugula and mustard greens. Baby, my seedlings said, “We can handle the cold, but it’s too cold.”

Winter had gotten hold of those arugula and mustard green seedlings and turned them every which way but loose. Those poor babies turned brown and laid flat. They were worn out. I was sad to see what had once been vibrant and beautifully green become brown and weary.

But God.

As winter began to fade away, I saw new green growth appearing beneath those brown, weary seedlings. What I thought was completely gone was showing proof that life still remained and my crops had survived.

As winter departed and warmer temperatures arrived, my garden beds not only survived, they thrived. The garlic continued doing well, and the stalks grew tall, reaching the tops of the hoops and nets. Although the spinach seemed to enjoy the cooler temperatures more, it held on for a little while longer. The lettuce did well also. The herbs seemed slower to sprout, except for the cilantro.

Just as the weather warmed, I was able to harvest the spinach and even gave some to my neighbor, who immediately used it in a salad. My family and I used the harvested lettuce and spinach in salads and on sandwiches and burgers. It felt good to be able to eat and share what I had grown. As temperatures continued to rise, I noticed flowers beginning to appear and learned that spinach can bolt in the heat. I then hurried and harvested the remaining spinach before more of it bolted.

I have continued harvesting lettuce and now cilantro as well. I was also able to harvest some of the mustard greens (they were so good with some ham hocks), but I didn’t harvest all of them in time before they bolted in the heat.

Another lesson I learned was the importance of spacing seeds strategically so they receive proper sunlight, have room to grow, and can reach their full size.

I am still waiting on the other herbs and carrots, but I see the thyme coming through and a little of the chives. The arugula, however, never grew back.

As for my spring garden endeavors, I decided to use grow bags for my next crops. Right now, I am growing red peppers in their own grow bag, radishes (at my mom’s request) in another, and strawberries in their own bag as well. Later, I plan to add a few more crops and grow bags.

Now that we are approaching summer, I am learning a new watering rhythm. I have also had to pluck weeds out of my beds. I couldn’t believe that they had taken up residence in them. Furthermore, I had to deal with ants trying to establish a few colonies, mainly in the Grace bed, along with a few aphids there and in the hot pepper bag. Thankfully, it has not been severe—just a few leaves with holes. I believe I identified and addressed the problem, and I am looking forward to a healthier harvest.

In the meantime, God is still teaching me to trust Him and be patient. I cannot see what is happening beneath the soil when it comes to some of the crops. If I dig underneath or pull them up too soon, I disturb the soil and may hinder what is still developing. And shamefully, I have done that.

So I’ve got to let God cook.

Let Him do what He needs to do while He teaches me how to water, feed, and tend the soil. Let Him teach me to speak life even over my garden beds, be patient, persevere, and keep the faith.

Because gardening has become about more than growing vegetables. It has also become a lesson in trusting the One who causes growth.

"Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up." — Galatians 6:9

Accompanying Video:

The Grace To Become

People-pleasing. Over-explaining. Not always confident in your own skin. Anxious. Overworking. Overproving. Losing your glow. Constantly tired. Operating from survival mode for far too long. Lacking peace.

I know these things all too well.

And this season has carried its share of discomfort, grief, and lessons, but I’m grateful for how far God has brought me.

I’m learning to trust God on a whole different level. Learning to be unapologetically me. Surprisingly, this new journey with my hair has taught me to also extend grace to myself and walk in a confidence I didn’t think I could have.

Setting boundaries is hard. Enforcing them scares me. But my well-being requires it.

I still have a ways to go. God continues to uncover things in my heart that need surrendering. But I see growth. I see healing. I see His faithfulness. And I am receiving His grace to become.

Oftentimes, we get lost in becoming everything for everyone.

We chase applause, approval, and validation. We overwork and tire ourselves trying to be acknowledged, accepted, and appreciated. We move through each day existing rather than truly living. We blend in when we were called to stand out. We lean on people that are just as human as we are. We lean unto our own understanding, forgetting to trust in the Lord who is omniscient and omnipresent with our whole heart. We seek fulfillment from titles, accomplishments, and things that cannot fully fulfill us or hold us up—only to realize that God is the only One who can fulfull and sustain us.

Somewhere along the way, we lose ourselves.

We become a shell of who we once were. Life keeps moving, and instead of walking through it with purpose, we find ourselves being dragged along by it. We operate from survival mode for so long that we forget what peace feels like. We become so focused on proving our worth that we forget our worth was never ours to prove.

Then God, in His mercy and grace, sets us on a new journey.

A journey that is not just about healing, but about becoming.

Becoming who He created us to be before fear took hold.
Before people-pleasing became a lifestyle.
Before striving became our identity.
Before the weight of life convinced us we had to carry everything on our own.

The journey is not always comfortable. It requires surrender. It requires honesty. It requires letting go of versions of ourselves that were built on survival instead of trust.

Yet in the midst of it all, God teaches us to depend on Him. He teaches us that His peace truly surpasses all understanding. He teaches us that confidence is not found in perfection, applause, or achievement, but in knowing whose we are.

And little by little, as we surrender more of ourselves to Him, we begin to see clearly again.

We start to see ourselves the way He does.
We see the growth.
We see the healing.
We see His faithfulness.

And we receive His grace to become.
All that He purposed us to be.

What new thing is God doing in your life?
Who are you becoming?

Gardening Update: What I’ve Learned So Far


Just a quick garden update: I have been researching, and yes, using ChatGpt to aid me in maintaining my garden beds and veggies. This is my first time gardening and I was a bit intimidated by the process.

I planted, Apollos watered, but God gave the growth. So neither he who plants nor he who waters is anything, but only God who gives the growth. 1 Corinthians 3: 6-7

I understand that this scripture primarily reminds believers that we are not alone in the work of the Kingdom. Moreover, no one is more superior than the others. Some are called to plant the Word, others to water through discipling, and all of us are called to remain humble because it is God who brings the growth, the success, and the results. Any fruit that comes is by His power alone.

But as I read this scripture, it also helps me to understand that in my gardening venture—and as I plant and water—that it is God that breathes life upon my little garden beds of veggies and herbs.

I’m deeply grateful for the growth that God has brought to my garden beds. I am also grateful for His careful watch over them during this Midwestern cold. Seeing the garlic shoots, thyme, arugula, kale, and more sprout up just before the cold settled in is both satisfying and a relief. 

The only thing I wished I would have understood or did better is structuring the space of the seeds because I have to continually thin the veggies as they grow. This ensures they won’t be bunched up and compete for sunlight or space.

And if you are wondering about the cold, I planted veggies and herbs that can endure the winter season with a little extra support such as frost covers when temps drop too low. And the last time I peeked in on them, those little baby sprouts were doing well. Today, while it is a bit warmer than the previous days, I am going to check them again to see how they are holding up. And I am looking forward to when they are much bigger and fully ready to harvest. 


Reflection:

How does remembering that God gives the increase change the way you view your efforts—both spiritually and practically?

Lessons on Unfulfillment & Growth

Sometimes what people say sparks judgment… or it sparks reflection. Here’s what Ayesha Curry reminded me about fulfillment, identity, and walking with God through it all.

Ayesha Curry is being dragged online for saying she never wanted to be married or have children — that she wanted to be a “career girl.”

It made me think of these statements I heard before: that a curly-haired person often wants straight hair, and the one with straight hair often wants curls. The single woman may envy the married one, and the married woman may envy the single one. You get the point — so many of us wrestle with some kind of discontentment, and we never really know deep down what is going on with someone or what is happening behind the closed doors of their homes.

So, instead of joining the dragging, I felt led to turn this into a moment of reflection — and encouragement.

Ayesha isn’t the first woman to express this kind of longing or unfulfillment. But she must be careful about oversharing and processing deeply personal pain in public spaces. She’s mentioned going to therapy, which is good — but I hope she’s also doing the heart work with God. Because therapy is helpful, but true healing happens when we let Jesus into the process.

When I’ve had to face my own pain, I’ve asked God to show me the root causes — the “why” behind the hurt — and to lead me forward. Healing with Him hits differently.

Here are a few lessons I’ve learned that I think we as women — especially Christian women — can remember when we feel unfulfilled or lost:

1. Only God can fulfill you. No person, title, or situation can do what only the Creator can.


2. Nobody can keep you happy forever. Happiness is fleeting. True joy is rooted in God, not in circumstances.


3. Know who you are outside of your roles. You are more than your job, your family, or your church position.


4. Rediscover what lights you up. Don’t get lost in others’ expectations. Find your God-given passions and purpose.


5. Don’t make “the good girl,” “church girl,” or “career woman” your identity. Those are titles, not your essence.

Note: this is not saying go out and sin. It is not saying go out and be wordly. It is not saying that “good girl,” “church girl,” or “career woman,” are bad. But what it is saying is your identity should not be wrapped up in these titles, positions, etc.
Your true identity is found in Christ. And if we fail to maintain perfection, some of us will be crushed under a false standard of perfection that can never be obtained. Instead aim to make right decisions, not forsake the assembling of ourselves with other believers, live life on purpose and in purpose. Aim to please God and not man. Aim to live a life that is full and enriched.


6. Embrace all of life’s seasons. The dull and hard ones often teach us the most about ourselves and about God.


7. Evolve and grow. You won’t be the same ten years from now as you are today. Let God continue shaping your heart to reflect His Son.


8. Reinvent yourself if you need to.
If you know you want a simpler lifestyle or to grow more confident, take steps toward creating the life you need — one that also honors God. Maybe you want to freshen up your wardrobe, travel more, or step into your “rich auntie” era — do it! Just check your motives.

Are you doing it to seek validation only, prove something, or outshine someone? If so, pause and reflect. But if you’re doing it because you’re healing, growing, and wanting to live more fully, go for it.

And don’t allow people to box you in. You don’t have to stay stuck in who you used to be or in the image others have of you. Grow, evolve, and glow up — with God leading the way.


9. Develop a heart of gratitude. But don’t neglect the room for grieving the life you thought you should have had, or wanted, or have yet to experience within your healing journey. Sometimes we don’t know what we truly want when we’re younger. Grieving is natural and necessary, but there are things, some so small yet so monumental, to be grateful for.


10. Be quick to listen and slow to speak.
And get back to living. Sometimes we need to hear our own pain. And sometimes we need to refrain from constantly rehearsing our pain and get back up and live — living the life that allows us to breathe again. Not perform. Not live in someone else’s image of us. Not constantly going and never stopping to rest and enjoy that which or who is around us.

So be encouraged, Ayesha — and to the rest of the ladies who may also feel lost, unfulfilled, or just need to get off the spinning wheel or out of the box of the world or others’ expectations.

Light Up Your Heart (Get Back Up)

Just some encouragement for you today:

Get back up. And don’t give up.

My Poem — Light Up Your Heart (Don’t Give Up)

You have dimmed your light for too long
That you have adjusted your vision to the dark.
Now I’m going to need you to open up your heart.


And see yourself the way God does.
You need to be brave.
I know the world seems to cave
In, on all sides.
I know you feel like you are falling apart
But you will rise to the top
And all your pieces will come together
From a version of you that is healed and better.


Don’t give up.
And don’t let go of His hand.
He will give you the wisdom and grace to stand.
Don’t give up.
Don’t give in.
Take one day at a time
Until you land
Where God is taking you to expand
And be full of His joy.


You’ve been feeling like a failure
But trust — you are going to win.
You won’t be the same tomorrow as today
Don’t give up
You will eventually be okay.

Video:

For High School Students

In the dream I had last night, this is what I saw myself saying (I woke up and found my phone to immediately jot it down as it I believe it is encouragement from the Lord, so clock it):

High school may be the  best years for some or the worst years for some. However, may you learn and not just academically what you need to learn, learn to pivot, and navigate storms with wisdom, courage, and God’s grace.

And I will add: May you grow and begin to build the foundations of your future. High school is just a small fraction of your life. Your world is and future will be much bigger than high school. And the best is yet to come. Be encouraged and finish strong. Find your safe, God-appointed tribe that Lavell Harris, my former student and speaker at one of my school sites’s recent graduation, says, “corrects you in private and celebrates you in public.” I pray you have the support, truth, and love to usher you into your God-given destiny. May you start and finish strong. May you not give up, and may you learn who God created you to be, in Jesus’ name, amen.

This is encouragement for our high school youth, and congratulations to the class of 2025 high school graduates!

All Things Autumn🍂

Autumn a.k.a Fall is now my new favorite season!!!!! I love the rich colors, the Fall Season staples like pumpkin spice, Apple Cider, Apple and Sweet Potatoe Pies, and warm sweaters. I also like the sunny, brisk weather. I also like the transformation of nature that reminds us that change can be beautiful and letting go is crucial at times.

Here are some photos of my Autumn season so far. Some of my fall looks, fall foods, drinks and places I have experienced so far.

I am looking forward to Thanksgiving now!!!!

While you check out the photos, I also have videos up on YouTube. 


And I also want to know what is your favorite things about Fall?

Note: All photos taken by me except one. Tannika Nikeya

You Get Better

What do you think gets better with age?

Currently, it seems that ageism is increasing, or maybe because of social media, getting more awareness.

Ageism, according to Google, is defined as prejudice or discrimination on the grounds of a person’s age.

It can show up in the discrimination of an elderly person applying for a job, the demonizing of young people when not understood, or the unrealistic expectations placed upon an older or younger woman.

It is scary that younger people are getting messages that they should have everything settled and figured out by 21 and that older people should stop living as soon they turn 60. Or that someone is even old at 35, 40, and there is nothing left in life for them. Assinine thinking. (This is not a license for young people to not apply themselves and start the work to figure things out or live recklessly. Nor is it a license for older people to live recklessly and never mature mentally, emotionally, etc.)

We all, good Lord’s will, get older. Or are supposed to get older. If you wake up each day, getting older is inevitable. And it is NOT a bad thing. It is blessing. Some people leave this earth too soon. Moreover, some people’s dreams, goals and potential go to the grave without being brought to fruition or even to full capacity or total fulfillment.

And that part is disheartening.

So, remember, we all get older and it is a good thing. However, watching yourself change and evolve, moreso physically, can bring about a variety of emotions, and can be scary for some.

But don’t fret. Life gets better, yet.

And what gets better with age, you ask.

You.

Yes, you.

As you get maturer. As you become an adult. And as you become a grown grown person as some say, you should become better.

Not perfect. But better.

Your self awareness should be building. Your true confidence unlocking. You should be growing in wisdom. You should be more accountable and responsible. You should be busy living and not just existing. You should be awakening into the you, God created you to be.

So, with age, you get better. And life should get better. You are learning to live more authentic. You are healing. You are becoming more self-aware. You are unlearning some things to learn the right things. You are learning how to truly take care of you.

You have built up resilience and you have learned to persevere. And for some of us, you have learned when to rest and how to. You have set goals for yourself and maybe not all of them, but some of them. And you are realizing with age, it is not over yet.

Life is just beginning. Or you have come to the middle of your life where there is a plot twist, and you are in for a good treat. Especially with God leading the way.